“I’m not going to tell you to think about baseball. Baseball is the last thing you want to be thinking about when you’re having sex.” – Dr. Harry Fisch
How to Delay Ejaculation: Manual Methods
Taking matters into your own hands
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem facing men of all ages, especially those under the age of 40. And while PREBOOST provides a safe and effective method for slowing down a man’s sexual response, there are a few other tried-and-true techniques that you and your partner can use to help slow things down. Here are a few approaches to try:
Some men have found that deep breathing can help control the tension and arousal that can lead to premature ejaculation. Try to avoid shallow breathing, which can speed up your heartbeat and cause sex to end too soon for you or your partner. Your goal: spend five seconds taking in one deep breath, hold it for three seconds, then exhale for five seconds. Try to keep this going, and it may help you delay ejaculation.
This technique of withdrawal or ceasing movement helps build control by slowing things down when you’re on the edge of orgasm. This can be done during intercourse or you can practice during masturbation. They key is learning to feel your “point of no return” and stopping before you go too far.
Similar to the stop-and-start method (and often done at the same time), this approach involves you or your partner squeezing the penis just below the head when you feel you’re close to orgasm. Other options are squeezing the base of your penis, pressing on the perineum (the skin between the anus and the scrotum), or gently pulling your testes down and away from your body. These techniques can help slow things down and help make sex last longer.
The muscle that you use to control ejaculation is the same muscle that you use to stop urinating in mid-stream. To exercise this muscle, start with a full bladder and quickly clench and release the muscle repeatedly for ten seconds. Work up to three sets, with a 10-second break between sets. Remember to only engage this muscle rather than using your abdominals, buttocks or thighs. These other muscles should be kept relaxed during these exercises and while controlling ejaculation during sex.
If certain sexual positions feel better to you than others, you may want to try the others. For example, some men orgasm quickly in the missionary position while being underneath takes longer. With your partner’s cooperation, this approach may help both of you enjoy sex longer.
Desensitizing the skin
The techniques described above can help extend a man’s sexual response time, but some of them can interrupt the rhythm of sex, which can be frustrating if your partner is close to having an orgasm. Many men have found that the best solution is a combination of these approaches plus PREBOOST pre-moistened wipes, which slightly desensitize the penis without interfering with pleasure or orgasm.
Include your partner
If you’re going to try something new in bed, it’s a good idea to involve your partner in the process. For many couples, a “team approach” helps you both to pay better attention to each others needs and increases the likelihood that you’ll both enjoy sex more.